For a guy, who does not believe in love, the headline is nothing but a play of words - My Love line!!
What is love? From juvenile answers ('Mother's love is the only love') to more mature responses('There is 'nothing' called love'), I have heard them all. Did I get an answer? An answer which shuts my mouth?
The questions I kept asking myself - Did I love? Do I love? Does anyone love me? I always asked wrong questions. Wrong questions give you wrong answers! The correct questions are - Is she the 'one'? Can I live with her for a 'lifetime'? Am I the 'one' for her?
Once I realized, I searched for her. I searched everywhere - Deloitte, College, Hyderabad, and a hell lot of places. I had interests in some and I liked some. Interests change as did my food tastes. Once I dislike someone, it is hard to like the person again. None of my likes or interests helped me find the one.
I believe 'Love is a cage if it is a happy cage you will be happy in it forever. If it is a sad cage, you will wait for the cage doors to open'. I took my steps cautiously. Just like the lyrics in 'What is love?', I was scared that my love would hurt me.
Should I really be scared? Given that I did not find her yet. Or did I find her? Why am I so scared? Why will she hurt me? Am I not mature enough to handle the pain? How do I know? Is there a test or an assessment? I used to believe a fight between heart and mind is poetic as it is the mind which does the job. or is it not?
I came to terms that there is no real love. love is just a word which is used to express your feelings of belonging to someone. Even friendship is. Is not friendship purer than love? As a friend, you will have your complete freedom to follow what you want to. Do we really have it in love relationship? As a friend, you can sacrifice for your friend without a second thought and you will never make your friend a reason for your failures. Don't we curse each every day in a love relationship? You never expect anything from a friend yet you will have your best moments with that friend. Don't we expect to love every day in a love relationship? It goes on.
This very reason led me to find the 'one' among my friends. I had the same 3 questions to answer - Is she the 'one'? Can I live with her for a 'lifetime'? Am I the 'one' for her? Three simple questions with difficult answers. Am I successful in my endeavor? Did I find her? Did she find me? Time tells.
One thing, I want you to digest - If your heart(read mind) knows the right person, you won't stop. If your mind knows how you will spend the rest of your life with that person, no one can stop you. Believe me, search for that friend, you won't be disappointed. Even if you fail, you will be happy because you did not let yourself down. I won't let myself down. And you don't.
What is love? From juvenile answers ('Mother's love is the only love') to more mature responses('There is 'nothing' called love'), I have heard them all. Did I get an answer? An answer which shuts my mouth?
The questions I kept asking myself - Did I love? Do I love? Does anyone love me? I always asked wrong questions. Wrong questions give you wrong answers! The correct questions are - Is she the 'one'? Can I live with her for a 'lifetime'? Am I the 'one' for her?
Once I realized, I searched for her. I searched everywhere - Deloitte, College, Hyderabad, and a hell lot of places. I had interests in some and I liked some. Interests change as did my food tastes. Once I dislike someone, it is hard to like the person again. None of my likes or interests helped me find the one.
I believe 'Love is a cage if it is a happy cage you will be happy in it forever. If it is a sad cage, you will wait for the cage doors to open'. I took my steps cautiously. Just like the lyrics in 'What is love?', I was scared that my love would hurt me.
Should I really be scared? Given that I did not find her yet. Or did I find her? Why am I so scared? Why will she hurt me? Am I not mature enough to handle the pain? How do I know? Is there a test or an assessment? I used to believe a fight between heart and mind is poetic as it is the mind which does the job. or is it not?
I came to terms that there is no real love. love is just a word which is used to express your feelings of belonging to someone. Even friendship is. Is not friendship purer than love? As a friend, you will have your complete freedom to follow what you want to. Do we really have it in love relationship? As a friend, you can sacrifice for your friend without a second thought and you will never make your friend a reason for your failures. Don't we curse each every day in a love relationship? You never expect anything from a friend yet you will have your best moments with that friend. Don't we expect to love every day in a love relationship? It goes on.
This very reason led me to find the 'one' among my friends. I had the same 3 questions to answer - Is she the 'one'? Can I live with her for a 'lifetime'? Am I the 'one' for her? Three simple questions with difficult answers. Am I successful in my endeavor? Did I find her? Did she find me? Time tells.
One thing, I want you to digest - If your heart(read mind) knows the right person, you won't stop. If your mind knows how you will spend the rest of your life with that person, no one can stop you. Believe me, search for that friend, you won't be disappointed. Even if you fail, you will be happy because you did not let yourself down. I won't let myself down. And you don't.
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